One of the first things that will factor into how you should go about fixing your relationship is why the relationship is in distress in the first place. 

Is your relationship broken because of infidelity? 

If so, was it you or your partner that cheated?  This type of relationship can be fixed but it is the toughest thing to overcome and both partners have to be willing to work very hard to make things right. 

With infidelity it would seem like the partner who cheated would have to do all the work, but that isn’t really the case. 

The truth of the matter is that it will take just as much work for the person who was cheated on to try to overcome their dread of being hurt again, their mistrust of their partner, as well as their rage and desire for revenge.

If your relationship has broken down more gradually over time, this might be a small simpler to mend. 

Of course, it will still take time and work and you both will need to be 100% committed to working on it.  Many relationships in this category die like a plant in a garden, from lack of nurturing.  It’s not usually a huge thing that ends it but rather a series of small, seemingly unimportant, things that will weaken the relationship to the point where it will break very easily. 

This type of relationship will take an honest assessment of what each of you has done, or not done, to weaken the relationship. 

Once you’ve both admitted the part you’ve played in the breakdown of the relationship, at least to yourself, it’s time to sit down with your partner and honestly discuss what went incorrect, what you reckon needs to be done to make it right, as well as what you personally are willing do to fix the relationship.

This part of the process will be very hard and will often lead to some horrendous fights.  Why? Because this is the part where you will have to listen to your partner tell you why they aren’t pleased with you. 

This won’t be simple for you to hear … and the same goes for your partner when it’s your turn to talk. 

Very often one partner won’t be able to deal with what they perceive as criticism when their partner is trying to clarify why they aren’t pleased.  Once that happens it will often end up in a screaming match and nothing will get accomplished.

This is the point where you, and your partner, will need to grow up.

If neither one of you is able to calmly listen to your partner while they try to clarify what has made them miserable in the relationship you won’t have any chance at all of working things out.

Healing a broken relationship isn’t impossible, but it will take work.  If you or your partner aren’t able to be mature and able to face your faults and be willing to work on changing them then you will have a much harder time of fixing your relationship.

It in reality the break has gone to a point which seems a point of no return .. yet you are willing to do whatever it takes to fiz it … then read  Save My Troubled Relationship. 

You won’t be sorry.

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